Every relationship goes through a honeymoon phase and once that ends you may feel as though things are going stale, you feel tired, repetitive and even become disconnected. Its not that you lose your love for your partner, its that sometimes we allow ourselves to become complacent thus, we don't actively work on nurturing our relationships. It is important that we continue to bring that freshness of the honeymoon phase but the questions is how?
Here are 5 ways to refresh your long term relationships:
1. Start Asking Questions
This may sound silly at first but how many of us rely on assumptions, which in turn ends up in you and your partner arguing over something that could have been avoided with a simple question. That is why Asking Questions is a powerful tool in relationships it allows you and your partner to open up a space of vulnerability so you are able to know each other on deeper levels, share more, and understand each others inner worlds, changing needs, focus and desires.
2. Show Affection Everyday
You would be surprised by the people that go through life without having any affection daily. Every day, there should be some sort of warmth towards each other. Whether it’s kissing, hugging, or just holding their hand, make sure that you show how much you care. Showing affection, big or small is just a way to not only reassure your partner but to also stay connected in this crazy life.
3. Take Turns Planning Dates
Sometimes in relationships it can feel like you are the only person putting in the effort to plan date nights. That is why it is important to take turns and have fun with what you organise. Don't be afraid to think outside the box! Ask other couples to get involved for some fun like going to dinner or the movies which can make date night exciting and different.
4. "We" Instead of "I"
This is something I have personally struggled with in a relationship. As an independent person coming into a relationship I would forget that I'm sharing my life with another person. Being with your partner for a while, it is common to go your separate ways so it is important to include your partner in most aspects of your life and in your vocabulary. Inclusion is something that is vital to people. It makes them feel connected to you and reassures them that you guys are a team.
5. Give Unexpected Gifts
It doesn't have to be extravagant, it can be simply surprising them with flowers when they get home from work or a small box of their favourite chocolates. Its the little gestures that will show your partner you are thinking of them and that you actually care.
A relationship is a journey that two people consciously embark on together. Showing love to your partner doesn't stop after the initial fall. You need to continuously show up and put in the effort if you want your relationship to work in the long run.